Mes préférences, hobbies, habitudes
- Social sciences (especially psychology, sociology, philosophy)
- collecting aphorisms and quotations
- developing web applications
- photographing
- improving my skills in foreign languages.
- playing the flute
- I spend a lot of time with my computer, writing my thoughts, developing software, looking for information, reading;
- I am member of various cultural associations
Détails sur ce que je cherche et ce que j’offre
I am looking for persons who share my interests,.for company and exchange of ideas
Les questions qui m’interpellent
my difficulty to adapt to the mindset of 'normal' people
Les questions qui me préoccupent pour la vie des personnes qui me sont chères
I hope my children will meet the right persons with whom to build their families
Les questions qui me préoccupent pour l’humanité
- resistance to change
- risk of local and global wars
- environment pollution and climate change
- overpopulation and global poverty
Ma nature et mon caractère
Calm, reflective, introvert, affectionate, serious, conscientious, determined
Dans quelle mesure suis-je introverti / extroverti ?
introvert
Ce qu’il y a de bon dans la vie à mes yeux
The possibility of learning new things, creating, changing and improving things within and outside myself.
Les aspects négatifs de la vie à mon sens
The incomprehension between human beings
Avec quelle facilité je me sens timide
When I was young I used to be shy, not any more
Combien mon humeur est stabile
Quite stable
Je préfère guider ou être guidé?
Leading
Mon degré de conformisme ?
Very little
Suis-je porté à l’ordre et à la discipline ?
much
Combien compte la sincérité pour moi ?
very much; if I have to lie I feel bad
Suis-je porté à la jalousie ?
average
Suis-je porté à être envieux ?
I never envy a person for their possessions or their success. I may envy persons for their beauty, strength, intelligence, wisdom, courage and usefulness to society.
M’arrive-t-il d’être arrogant ? présomptueux ?
I don't think I am arrogant or presumptuous. However I am sometimes perceived so because I have personal ideas that I like to express and discuss. And also because I can hardly refrain from objecting any statements that I consider wrong or false.
Ai-je tendance à être paresseux ?
average
Mon degré de créativité ?
more than average
Jusqu’à quel point ai-je peur de mourir ?
I am not afraid of dying, although I hope this will not happen too soon, because I still have so many things to do.
J’essaye d’accepter la société telle qu’elle est ou je voudrais pouvoir la changer ?
I cannot accept society as it is and want to do as much as I can reasonably do to contribute to its improvement.
Ma tendance au narcissisme ? Suis-je vaniteux ?
average
Ce que j’apprécie le plus chez quelqu’un
- the ability to make the others feel at ease
- the ability to laugh at oneself
- the ability to question oneself and doubt of the validity of ones own convictions
Le(s) genre(s) de lecture que je préfère
- non fiction (essays) especially on social sciences and humanism
- some novels with psychological depth
Mes vacances préférées (lieux, loisirs, compagnie etc.)
Being retired, I am always on vacation; I prefer to spend my vacations at home; sometimes I like to travel with my family, and explore cultures different than ours.
Films qui m’ont plu
films by high quality authors
Le(s) genre(s) de musique que je préfère
Classic, jazz, blues, funk jazz, bossa nova
Les lieux que je recherche
Casa mia
Les gens que je considère comme des modèles à suivre
Carlo Sini, Piero Angela, Corrado Augias, Gian Luigi Stella, Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Alain de Botton e molti altri
Les sports que je suis comme spectateur
I find sport-watching boring
Mon régime alimentaire (omnivore, végétarien, vegan etc.)
I eat anything, but very little meat. I could live without meat.
Les livres importants pour moi
Vedi "libri che mi hanno cambiato la vita"
Les traditions que j’apprécie
New Year's concert from Wien
Les traditions qui me déplaisent
Religious traditions
Mes objets préférés
my cross trainer, my computer, my camera, my car, my flute
Mes comiques et humoristes préférés
Woody Allen, George Carlin, Gigi Proietti, Loriot, Corrado Guzzanti, Caterina Guzzanti, Paola Cortellesi, Francesca Reggiani, Carlo Verdone, Alberto Sordi
Mes metteurs en scène préférés
Stanley Kubrik, Federico Fellini, François Truffaut, Werner Herzog, Clint Eastwood, Paolo Sorrentino, Sidney Lumet, Mario Monicelli, Ettore Scola
Mes sources d’information et journalistes préférés
La Repubblica, Corriere della sera, The Guardian, The New York Times
Mes citations préférées
Doing the right thing is more important than doing the thing right (Paul Drucker)
Life is a state of mind. (From the film 'Being There')
Love consists of overestimating the differences between one woman and another. (George Bernard Shaw)
Creativity is connecting things. (Steve Jobs)
When one person suffers from a delusion it is called insanity. When many people suffer from a delusion it is called religion. (Robert M. Pirsig)
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. (Carl Gustav Jung)
Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills. (Arthur Schopenhauer)
Mes philosophes préférés
Nietzsche, Schopenhauer
Mes écrivains préférés
Albert Camus, Oscar Wilde, Richard Dawkins, Emile Cioran, Balzac, Stendhal, Thomas Mann, Goethe, Alessandro Manzoni, Luigi Anepeta, Erich Fromm, Daniel Goleman, Paul Watzlawick, Eric Berne, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer
Les acteurs / actrices que je préfère
Meryl Streep, Clint Easwood, Vittorio Gassman, Alberto Sordi, Carlo Verdone, Paola Cortellesi, Sofia Loren, Marcello Mastroianni, Toni Servillo, Henry Fonda
Les compositeurs de musique classique que je préfère
Mozart, Haendel, J.S. Bach, Liszt, Gershwin
Les musiciens et chanteurs pop que je préfère
The Beatles, James Taylor, Luigi Tenco, Sergio Endrigo, Enzo Jannacci, Procol Harum, Paul SImon, Billy Joel, Sergio Cammariere, Stefano Bollani
Mes villes préférées
Rome, Munich, Paris
Mes phobies, mes peurs
- fear of being misunderstood
- fear of being considered arrogant or presumptuous
Les choses qui me passionnent
creativity, civil progress
Les choses qui m’irritent
advertising
Ce que je ne pourrais jamais pardonner
nothing if the person regrets what has done
Combien je supporte la solitude, avec quelle fréquence je me sens seul
Sopporto la solitudine molto più della media degli altri. Mi sento generalmente solo in quanto non trovo persone che condividono la mia visione del mondo.
Suis-je sélectif dans mes relations sociales ?
Much
Les choses qui m’ennuient
- Sports watching, commercial music, repetitive things
- nromality
Les choses qui me font souffrir
Ignorance, stupidity, presumption, conscius and unconscious violence by most people.
Les choses qui je trouve émouvantes
- act of generosity without second ends
- demonstrations of fraternity and solidarity
Ce sur quoi je ne plaisante jamais
aboiut misfortune (genetic defects, disabilities etc.)
Les choses qui me sont intolérables
lying by adults
Ce dont je suis fier
my children
Les genres de personnes que je déteste ou méprise
I prevaricatori che competono con la forza anziché con il talento e la ragione
Mon sentiment à l’égard de l’espèce humaine en général
people who compete by force instead of talent or reason
Comment je réagis aux accusations et aux critiques
I worry and try to understand the reasons of accusations and criticism. If I think they are founded, I try to improve (if I think it is possibile and right)
Les choses qui m’attendrissent
children and adults who know how to interact with children
Ce que j’aime dans mon travail
the sense of power I feel when the computer does exactly what I want from it
Mes désirs
- more friends
- do something good for society
- to be able to laugh about things I fear
- understand how mind woks and divulge this knowledge
Mon degré de satisfaction dans la vie
I think I am luckier than the average
Ce qui m’a manqué dans la vie
true and deep friendships, teachers who made me love literature, history, the arts
Les choses que j’aimerais apprendre
- playing the flute well
- speaking German well
Les habitudes que je voudrais perdre
the habit of talking with others about things about which I am passionate but do not interest them.
Mes projets
writing a book about human nature
Ce que je voudrais changer à ma mentalité
I would like to be more flexible in my ideas and opinions
Mes besoins insatisfaits ou conflictuels
my need for community is frustrated and conflicts aganist my need for liberty
Ce que je voudrais savoir
How human mind works
Ce que je ferais si j’avais 100 millions d’euros
I would create a foundation for the research and divulgation of the humanities
Ce que je voudrais faire avant de mourir
write a book with my experiences, to be left ad my legacy
Combien je suis intéressé par les idées et les sentiments des autres
very much
De combien ai-je besoin de l’approbation d’autrui
much, but I can also proceed without it
Ce que j’attends d’un ami, ce que veut dire pour moi l’amitié véritable
- sincerity, even when truth hurts
- availability to help me when I need it
- absense of envy and jealousy
- understanding of my weaknesses
- respect for my freedom
- common interests and ethical principle
Ce que je fais pour le bien commun
not enough
En quoi j’aimerais être reconnu / apprécié
more than being recognized, I would like to be desired as friend or collaborator
Ce que je ne suis pas prêt à offrir gratuitement
- counsulting about computers
Est-ce que je me sens suffisamment reconnu / apprécié de mes proches / des personnes de mon entourage ?
Si, ma non per gli aspetti che per me sono più interessanti.
Dans quelle mesure je me crois capable de comprendre ce que les autres attendent de moi ?
Not enough. I often make the mistake of believing that others think like me, that we have similar feelings. Often what they expect from me is very different from what I expect from them.
En quoi est-ce que je me sens incompris
My ability and inclination to analysis, and my rationality are sometimes seen as arrogance, inhibition, lack of emotions.
Gens qui m’ont aidé et envers qui je suis reconnaissant
my parents
Mes succès
- when I was appointed officer during my militaty service
- when I was awarded a high rank in the IT course by the first company I worked with
- all the times I looked for a job and found it
- when I was appointed manager
- every time I got a salary increase for my achievements
Mes échecs
- the times I was not able to speak in public
- the times I started a project that was not feasible
Mes premiers souvenirs
the punishments I received from my father because of my disobedience
Les déceptions que j’ai eues
my first marriage
Les gens que j’ai combattus
my father
Les livres qui ont changé ma vie
- Knowledge of Man (Alfred Adler)
- Man fo himself (Erich Fromm)
- Escape from freedom (Erich Fromm)
- Manwatching (Desmond Morris)
- Brave new world (Aldous Huxley)
- Timido, docile, ardente... (Luigi Anepeta)
- Tonio Kroeger (Thomas Mann)
- The selfidh gene (Richard Dawkins)
- Vital lies, simple truths (Daniel Goleman)
- Pragmatics of Human Communication (Paul Watzlawick)
- La politica del Super-io (Luigi Anepeta)
- Beyod good and evil (F. Nietzsche)
- Communities (Zygmunt Bauman)
Le travail qui m’a donné les satisfactions majeures
developing IT applications
Les erreurs que j’ai commises
When I was young, I did not study and read enough. I thought I already knew all the important things in life.
Le degré d’estime, d’appréciation que j’ai pour moi
enough
Mes vertus et mes qualités
- critical thought
- analysis and synthesis
- creativity
- sincerity
- coscientiousness
- reliability
Mes défauts et mes vices
- not realizing when someone is bored while hearing what I say
- I get easily enthusiast for ideas that after a while show their uselessness or non feasibility
Combien je m’estime intelligent
more than average
Combien je me sens utile et à qui
- to my relatives
- to my suppliers of goods and services
En quoi je me considère non compétitif, voire incapable
- in making myself likable
- in understanding other people's feelings
- in foreseeing the behavior of others
- in being diplomatic
En quoi suis-je compétitif, capable
- in speaking foreign languages
- in writing
- in analyzing problems
- in debating
Je me sens créditeur ou débiteur envers la société ?
debtor
Ce en quoi je me sens différent des autres
I can't be normal, I fear normality
En quoi je me sens égal aux autres
I also need to interact with other human beings, to be integrared in society, to be recognized, taken in consideration, loved, respected.
Sais-je faire preuve de maturité ?
not enough; I always want to grow, to improve.
Puis-je me dire libre des conditionnements mentaux ?
more than average
My ethical principles
I try to follow the ten commandments cited by Richard Dawkins in his book 'The God Delusion':
1. Do not do to others what you would not want them to do to you.
2. In all things, strive to cause no harm.
3. Treat your fellow human beings, your fellow living things, and the world in general with love, honesty, faithfulness and respect.
4. Do not overlook evil or shrink from administering justice, but always be ready to forgive wrongdoing freely admitted and honestly regretted.
5. Live life with a sense of joy and wonder.
6. Always seek to be learning something new.
7. Test all things; always check your ideas against the facts, and be ready to discard even a cherished belief if it does not conform to them.
8. Never seek to censor or cut yourself off from dissent; always respect the right of others to disagree with you.
9. Form independent opinions on the basis of your own reason and experience; do not allow yourself to be led blindly by others.
10. Question everything.
Ce que je pense de la fraude fiscale sur le plan éthique
It's like stealing, with the difference that instead of stealing a big sum of money from a person, one steals a little sum of money form many persons.
Mon opinion sur la prostitution
It's inevitable. The state must not forbid it, but regulate it, in order to limit the exploitation, pedophilia, crime and health hazards. Moreover, it could be taxed.
Mon avis sur le thème de la pornographie
Same answer as for prostitution.
Mon opinion sur l’homosexualité et la bisexualité
Homosexuality (alone or as bisexuality) is not an illness or a deficiency, but a preference, probably of genetic origin. It should be respected as a human right. Homofoby should be punished ad any other violation of human rights. I am also in favor of child adoption by homosexual couples.
Mon opinion sur l’avortement
It's an exclusive right of the woman concerned.
Ce que je pense de l’altruisme et de l’égoïsme
Thay are both present in our DNA, in proportions different from person to person. Both have their reasons. This world would be much better and confortable if there were more altruism and less egotism. In any case, it is important to understand other people's needs besides our own ones.
Ce que je pense de la guerre et du pacifisme
war is the most stupid things a human being could do, but absolut pacifism is even mor stupid. In some cases, avoid war would mena to submit oneself to stupid and violent persons or to be destroyed. Hitler would have become master of the entire world if no state would have made the war against him. It's easy to be pacifist when there are nonpacifists that protect you.
Ce que je pense de l’euthanasie
it is a right that should be granted to everybody.
Ce que je pense de la peine de mort
I am against it
Ce que je pense de la torture; est-elle admissible dans certaines circonstances particulières?
I am absolutely against it
Mon orientation religieuse
I am atheist; I think that religion is a delusion needed by the unconscious in order to overcome the existential anguish due to the idea of death, and the absence of a cosmic father; I think that even the most intelligent people can be blind to the absurdity and the contradictions contained in the sacred scriptures of their religions. I think religions also satisfy the innate need for community, present in every human being.
Ce que je pense du mariage
Come diceva Schopenhauer, "sposarsi significa dimezzare i propri diritti e raddoppiare i propri doveri". Nonostante questo credo sia una cosa buona, se si trova la persona giusta e si ha la disposizione giusta.
Est-ce que je crois au destin? Que tuoutes les choses se passent suivant un plan prédeterminé? Que rien arrive par hazard?
No, I believe in the laws of physycs, in genetics and in chance.
Mon orientation politique
progressive, reformist, democrat, partly liberal
Qui vois-je comme responsable des maux de la société ?
the majority of its members, some more, some less
Ce que je pense de l’intelligence, en quoi consiste-t-elle ?
- the capacity of processing complex ideas
- the capacity of seeng things in their multiple connections
- the capacity of seeing good and evil in everything and everyone
Mon avis sur la consommation des stupéfiants et sur son éventuelle légalisation
I don't think drugs are useful; in many cases they are harmful. Nevertheless I think they should be legalized and taxed in order to curbe the crime around them.
Ce que je pense de l’amour, ma définition de l’amour
There are various types of love, same are even harmful and ill. For me the good love is where one wishes the good for the loved person more than one's own good. This includes wishing to increase the liberty, power and independence of the loved ones.
Mon orientation philosophique
pragmatist, rationalist, constructivist, structuralist
Ce que je crois qu’un individu peut faire pour améliorer la société
Try to understand human nature by means of science, avoiding to believe in religious and traditional teachings.Look for alternative ways to interact and communicate, based on scientific discoveries, especially from neuroscience and psychology
Ce que je pense de la masturbation
It's no problem, neither medical nor moral
Mon avis sur la psychologie, la psychothérapie, sur les psychologues et les psychothérapeutes
There is no unique psychology nor a unique type of psychotherapy. There are many, and most of them have something valid. is it an error to pick one and not consider the other ones. Psychologies, together with neuosciences are necessary in order to understand human nature and help those who suffer mental disorders. As regards professionals of psychology and psychotherapy, there are good and bad ones and it is very important to be able to choose the right ones.
Mon opinion sur l’astrologie
silly things
Mon opinion sur l’ésotérisme et la magie
without scientific proof, I do not take them in consideration.
Mon opinion sur la réincarnation
I doubt it is possibile, there are non scientific proofs about it.
Mon opinion sur les religions différentes de la mienne
I believe all religions are based on delusion and self-delusion
Ce que je pense du libre-arbitre (réalité ou illusion ?)
I am afraid it is a delusion, however I prefer thinking that it exists, although in rare moments. Most of our time we live like robots, governed by unconscious programs that drive also our thoughts and feelings.
Mon avis sur les intravertis et les extrovertis
Introversion is not an illness and has many advantages, just like extraversion. Perhaps it is a good thing for mankind, that in the general population introverts are less than 50%. it would be good if introverts and extraverts know and respect each other, but i am afraid that extraverts are not able to understand introversion and are inclined to think of it as a handicap and a mental disorder, which is not true.
Est-ce que je pense que l’homme est fondamentalement bon ou mauvais ?
Both, in different proportions from person to person, determined by genetic factors and individual experiences. I believe, in general, that Man is good towards those that he considers members of its own community and bad or indifferent towards all the others, who he sees as a threat to one's security and well being.
My opinion about fashion and fashions
I don't like fashions. I think that what is really beautiful is universal and timeless.
Les choses que je considère comme les plus importantes pour une vie digne d’être vécue
- Freedom to express one's own particular nature
- a united family
- some true friendships
- a decent job
- a home
- being respected by the others
Combien de temps libre ai-je à disposition ?
much
Livres que j’ai lus durant les 12 derniers mois
- Vital lies, simple truths (Daneol Goleman)
- Pragmatics of human communication (Paul Watzlawick)
- Community (Zymunt Bauman)
Conseils que j’essaie de me donner à moi-même
- Don't feed who is not hungry
- Don't trust simple solutions to complex problems
- Remember that nobody is ready to change if not compelled to do it or has no incentive
Conseils que je donne aux autres en général
We must be aware of the fact that our mind deceives and delude us all the time and we should try to understand how it works by means of psychology. Our mid lets us see what does not hurt us, not what is true and real. In any case, simple solutions to complex problems are usually cause of worse problems.
Si je devais passer un mois sur une île déserte, sans relations avec l’extérieur, qu’emporterais-je avec moi ?
Food, good books, something to write.
Ma prévision sur le sort du monde dans trente ans
Social and enivironmental catasftrophes, but alst civil progress. Internet will be ever mightier and indispensable. Its potential is still largely unknown.
Mon degré de familiarité avec les ordinateurs et la technologie
Much, also because I am an IT professional.
Ce que je voudrais dire à Dieu, s’il existe ?
Please talk directly with each of us, without proxies.
Ce que je voudrais dire à tous les êtres humains
Let's respect and help each other, let's overcome our prejudices, our certainties and let's cooperate to buikd a new humanist society based on scientific knowledge which can help us to satisfy our deepest needs.
Attendre s'il vous plaît ......
Etat/Région: Bayern
